If you’re in crisis, please tell an adult you trust. It can be a parent, a grandparent, an aunt, uncle, cousin, or a good family friend. It can be a teacher, the school nurse, the school counselor, a member of your church, a coach, a dance teacher, etc. Even Lady Gaga encourages us to do this:

“We gotta take care of each other. If you see somebody that’s
hurting, don’t look away. And if you’re hurting, even though
it might be hard, try to find that bravery within yourself to
dive deep and go tell somebody.”
- Lady Gaga

Crisis Lines

If you are in crisis, there are numbers you can call.

If You’re in the U.S.:

24/7 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 Girls and Boys Town 1-800-448-3000 (Text & Chat available too, visit http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org )

Crisis Text Line (U.S. only): Text HELLO to 741741

If You’re in Canada:

The new Canada Suicide Prevention Service (CSPS), by Crisis Services Canada, enables callers anywhere in Canada to access crisis support by phone, in French or English: toll-free 1-833-456-4566 Available 24/7

Crisis Text Line (Powered by Kids Help Phone) Canada Wide free, 24/7 texting service is accessible immediately to youth anywhere in Canada by texting TALK to 686868 to reach an English speaking Crisis Responder and TEXTO to
686868 to reach a French-speaking Crisis Responder on any text/SMS enabled cell phone.

KidsHelpPhone Ages 20 Years and Under in Canada 1-800-668-6868 (Online or on the Phone)

If You’re in the UK:

24/7 Helpline: 116 123 (UK and ROI)

Samaritans.org: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us

YourLifeCounts.org: https://yourlifecounts.org/find-help/

If You’re in Australia:

Lifeline.org: https://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Online-Services/crisis-chat

LifeLine Australia: 1-300-13-11-14

YourLifeCounts.org: https://yourlifecounts.org/find-help/

Beyond Blue https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support

How to Find a Therapist

There are probably already people in your life who may be able to give you recommendations for therapists.

Start with:
Your pediatrician - Pediatricians may have a referral list of individual therapists who are experienced in working with teens.

Your School Counselor/Guidance Counselor - Usually counselors in a school know of local resources that can be helpful, including local individual therapists.

Your Insurance Company - this is a great place to start if you want to make sure that there aren’t any insurance issues.

Other places to check:
goodtherapy.com - This is a great place to start looking, and reach out to people who seem like they might be a good fit.

betterhelp.com - If you’re 13 to 19, this is a place where you can see a therapist online. You can sign up for therapy with parental permission through this site, and you can message your therapist or schedule chat, phone, or video meetings with a therapist.

Apps

Apps for Breathing, Relaxation, Mindfulness and Meditation

Relax Melodies - https://www.relaxmelodies.com/

Calm - https://www.calm.com/

Headspace - https://www.headspace.com/

Stop, Breathe and Think: Meditations - https://www.stopbreathethink.com/

Insight Timer - https://insighttimer.com/meditation-app

Relax: Stress & Anxiety Relief - https://www.saagara.com/apps/breathing/relax

Breathing Zone - http://www.breathing.zone/

Apps to Track Moods

Mood Meter App - https://moodmeterapp.com/

Daylio - https://daylio.webflow.io/

MoodKit - https://www.thriveport.com/products/moodkit/

Apps for White Noise & Soothing Sounds

Relax Melodies - https://www.relaxmelodies.com/

Noisli - noisli.com

White Noise Ambiance Lite - https://www.tmsoft.com/white-noise/

Sleep Machine - http://sleepsoftllc.com/

Books & Resources for Yoga, Mindfulness, and Relaxation

Books

The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time (The Instant Help Solution Series) by Dzung X. Vo, MD, FAAP

Mindfulness for Teens in 10 Minutes a Day: Exercises to Feel Calm, Stay Focused & Be Your Best Self by LMFT Jennie Marie Battistin, MA

Mindfulness for Teen Anxiety: A Workbook for Overcoming Anxiety at Home, at School, and Everywhere Else by Christopher Willard, Psy.D.

Mindfulness for Teen Anger: A Workbook to Overcome Anger and Aggression Using MBSR and DBT Skills by Mark C. Purcell, M.Ed., Psy.D. & Jason R Murphy, MA

Card Decks

Yoga and Mindfulness Practices for Teens Card Deck by Jennifer Cohen Harper Mayuri Gonzalez, and Argos Gonzalez, Illustrated by Karen Gilmour

Be Mindful Card Deck for Teens by Gina M. Biegel

Self-Compassion & Mindfulness for Teens Card Deck: 54 Exercises and Conversation Starters by Lee-Anne Gray

Audio/Video Mindfulness and Relaxation Scripts

Dartmouth College - Relaxation Scripts
https://students.dartmouth.edu/wellness-center/wellness-mindfulness/relaxationdownloads

Relaxation Scripts from Inner Health Studio
https://www.innerhealthstudio.com/

Do You Yoga
https://www.doyouyoga.com/10-cool-meditations-for-pre-teens-and-teens-67578/

Coping Skills for Kids YouTube Channel
Check out my YouTube channel for videos of Body Scans, Meditations, and Progressive Muscle Relaxation scripts designed for teens.

Books & Resources about Anxiety

Anxiety Sucks: A Teen Survival Guide by Natasha Daniels

My Anxious Mind: A Teen's Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic by Michael A. Tompkins and Katherine A. Martinez

101 Ways to Conquer Teen Anxiety: Simple Tips, Techniques and Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety, Worry and Panic Attacks by Dr. Thomas McDonagh and Jon Patrick Hatcher

The Anxiety Survival Guide for Teens: CBT Skills to Overcome Fear, Worry, and Panic (The Instant Help Solutions Series) by Jennifer Shannon, LMFT and Doug Shannon

The Anxiety Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal with Anxiety and Worry by Lisa M. Schab LCSW

Angst Movie - angstmovie.com - a great movie that starts the dialogue about anxiety. Look for a screening near you on their website, or take action and work to set up a screening for yourself.

Anxiety Resources from Coping Skills for Kids - My favorite resources & coping skills for calming anxiety all in one place.

Books & Resources about Managing Anger

Anger Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal with Anger and Frustration by Raychelle Cassada Lohmann, Ph.D., LPC

Chillax!: How Ernie Learns to Chill Out, Relax and Take Charge of His Anger by Marcella Marino Craver

Anger Resources from Coping Skills for Kids - My favorite resources & coping skills for managing anger all in one place.

Books & Resources about Handling Stress

Too Stressed to Think: A Teen Guide to Staying Sane When Life Makes You Crazy by Annie Fox M.Ed. & Ruth Kirschner

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens: CBT Skills to Help You Deal with Worry and Anxiety (Instant Help) by Michael A. Tompkins Ph.D., ABPP & Jonathan R. Barkin Psy.D.

The Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness Skills to Help You Deal with Stress by Gina M. Biegel, M.A., LMFT

Go Zen https://gozen.com - programs for ages 5 - 15 focused on helping with anxiety, stress and worry.

Stress Resources from Coping Skills for Kids - My favorite resources & coping skills for how to deal with stress all in one place.

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